Stop trying so hard

Stop trying so hard!

How was your week? I had a few small victories this past week that made me realize it’s possible to hold on to something so tight that you break it.

Sometimes if you loosen the grip, amazing things can happen.

But what does “loosen the grip” mean, exactly?

Well, I describe the “grip” as the feeling of wanting something so badly. Holding onto this grip too tightly leads to feeling like you can’t have what you want or that you’ll never achieve it. It’s a terrible feeling.

So, how do you “loosen” the grip? It’s simple: stop trying so hard. Does that mean you shouldn’t keep holding on to your dream, or that you shouldn’t try hard to make it happen? Absolutely not! It just means you should focus less on the result and more on the process. Stop thinking and talking so much about what you want to do, and just do it. Figure out who you want to be, and just be it. Set a goal, make a plan and work hard to reach your goal–but realize that your effort, and not so much your desire to succeed, is what will take you there.

I, for example, had a big desire to succeed. I dreamed about it, talked about it, and wished for it. But I wasn’t actually doing as much as I could to achieve my goal. I was spending more time thinking about it than actually doing it. Then, I’d get upset and wonder why things weren’t working out the way I wanted. Nothing changed for me until I focused more on the things I needed to do every day to reach my goals. Then, a funny thing happened–doors started to open for me. I had things coming to me that I had previously been trying so hard to get.

You don’t have to put so much pressure on yourself in order to be “as good” as someone else! Don’t fall into the trap of worrying so much about what people think or what everyone else is doing. Look to others to help you step your game up, not change it. Just be you and stop comparing yourself to others. Find your own voice, be social, and try to stay consistent.

Sooner or later, people will start to notice. Make sure you celebrate those “small victories!”

If you work hard, you’ll have more and more “small victories” until you look up and realize that you’re closer to your dream than you’ve ever been before.

New Music

New Music

Jazmine Sullivan – Forever Doesn’t Last | Niykee Heaaton – Bad Intentions | Rixton – Wait On Me | Jessie J – Burnin Up (featuring 2 Chainz) | Lights – Little Machines | Steve Aoki – Delirious (Boneless) | Jasmine V – That’s Me Right There | Jhene Aiko – Souled Out | Royal Blood – Figure It Out | Nick Jonas – Jealous | Alt-J – This Is All Yours | Nick & Knight – (Self-titled album) | Betty Who – All Of You | Meghan Trainor – Title | Flyleaf – Between The Stars

You can really tell Fall is coming! Even though it’s still pretty warm every day here in Dallas, the mornings are really starting to get chilly. It’s almost time for me to break out my winter coats! Even though summer is pretty much over, I still find myself listening to music that reminds me of summertime–probably because it’s my favorite season. I even have a playlist on Spotify filled with songs that give me that summertime vibe.

A few of my favorite new songs:

  • Jazmine Sullivan – Forever Doesn’t Last – I’m a big fan of Jazmine’s music! It’s so soulful and her voice is so beautiful.
  • Niykee Heaton – Champagne For The Pain – This breakout Youtube star surprised me! I had her song Bad Intentions on repeat, and I love the EP she just released.
  • Meghan Trainor – Dear Future Husband – I was in love with All About That Bass until it was worn out on the radio. Now I’m loving this song and the rest of her EP.
  • Rixton – Wait For Me – LOVE. Love this song and their whole vibe. I’m usually a sucker for boybands, although I’m not really into One Direction and 5 Seconds Of Summer.

By the way– how do ya’ll consume your music? I’m not sure if it’s better to link to Youtube, Spotify, iTunes or somewhere else. I may go back to creating (public) playlists on Spotify, which is what I mostly use. I keep most of my activity private right now because sometimes I have really embarrassing listening habits! This is all about sharing with you guys, though, so I should give it a shot.