How was your week? I had a few small victories this past week that made me realize it’s possible to hold on to something so tight that you break it.
Sometimes if you loosen the grip, amazing things can happen.
But what does “loosen the grip” mean, exactly?
Well, I describe the “grip” as the feeling of wanting something so badly. Holding onto this grip too tightly leads to feeling like you can’t have what you want or that you’ll never achieve it. It’s a terrible feeling.
So, how do you “loosen” the grip? It’s simple: stop trying so hard. Does that mean you shouldn’t keep holding on to your dream, or that you shouldn’t try hard to make it happen? Absolutely not! It just means you should focus less on the result and more on the process. Stop thinking and talking so much about what you want to do, and just do it. Figure out who you want to be, and just be it. Set a goal, make a plan and work hard to reach your goal–but realize that your effort, and not so much your desire to succeed, is what will take you there.
I, for example, had a big desire to succeed. I dreamed about it, talked about it, and wished for it. But I wasn’t actually doing as much as I could to achieve my goal. I was spending more time thinking about it than actually doing it. Then, I’d get upset and wonder why things weren’t working out the way I wanted. Nothing changed for me until I focused more on the things I needed to do every day to reach my goals. Then, a funny thing happened–doors started to open for me. I had things coming to me that I had previously been trying so hard to get.
You don’t have to put so much pressure on yourself in order to be “as good” as someone else! Don’t fall into the trap of worrying so much about what people think or what everyone else is doing. Look to others to help you step your game up, not change it. Just be you and stop comparing yourself to others. Find your own voice, be social, and try to stay consistent.
Sooner or later, people will start to notice. Make sure you celebrate those “small victories!”
If you work hard, you’ll have more and more “small victories” until you look up and realize that you’re closer to your dream than you’ve ever been before.